Everyone enjoys the attention and\ncompassion of others towards him\/herself. Humbleness is one of the most\nrecommended virtues by our leaders, which brings people closer to one another.\nConceit or self-centricity, on the contrary is a direct antonym to humbleness,\nwhich causes dispersing of surrounding people. But how is it possible be and\nremain humble while living among people, and refrain from becoming arrogant?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The following story portrays the\nsuggestions of Imam Sajjad (PBUH) about the importance of humility and how to\nprevent from being conceited in relation to people. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Imam Baqir (PBUH) narrates:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ibn Shahab Zuhri entered the presence\nof my father while looking very sad and distressed. My father said to him, \u201cWhy\nare you so sad?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Zuhri answered, \u201cO grandson of the\nMessenger of Allah, I am burdened and bothered by people who are jealous of my\nblessings and situation. Moreover those whom I had hope in, those whom I have\nhelped throughout, do not help me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Imam Sajjad (PBUH) said, \u201cControl your\ntongue so you can keep your friends.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Zuhri said, \u201cO grandson of the\nMessenger of Allah, but I have treated them with the utmost kind words.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Imam said, \u201cWoe! Woe! Be careful\nnot to become too conceited and self-centered of yourself for your eloquent\nspeaking. Be careful of saying a word that you are sure with that word they\nwill deny you, even if your word may seem logical in your eyes. So it is not\nthat you will be able to convince and explain your excuses and explanations to\neveryone who considers your word unacceptable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Zuhri! Why do you not see the Muslims\nas your own family, in which their elders are like your fathers and their young\nas your children, and the Muslims with the same ages of you as your\nbrothers? In this case, which of them\nare you willing to hurt, wish ill, or embarrass?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So if Satan is able to seduce you to\nthink that you are better than others, see if the person (that you feel is\ninferior to you) is older than you say, \u2018to me he is a believer and his good\ndeeds are more than mine\u2019, and if he is younger than you say, \u2018I have committed\nmore sins than him so he is better than me,\u2019 and if he is the same age as you\nsay, \u2018I am sure of my own sin, but doubtful about his, so why shall I change my\ncertainty to doubt?\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you see a Muslim bowing to you an\npaying you respects, say that \u2018this is a blessing of them to me\u2019, and if they\nignore or hurt you, say \u2018perhaps this is the result of a sin or error that I\nhave one.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you act in such a way, Allah will\ntake life easy on you and will increase your friends, and you will become happy\nof their good deeds and will not feel sorrow from their wrongdoings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
So know that the most benevolent for\npeople is he\/she who does good without having a need from them, and one who\ndoes not have a request from them. In\nanother level, the most benevolent of people is he\/she who takes care of\nhim\/herself and no matter how in need he is, does not ask help from others.\nFor, the people of the world are intrigued by their own properties. Thus anyone\nwho does not bother them in what they seek has helped them, and whoever in\naddition to not bothering them adds to their wealth is considered much more\nloved and respected by them.\u201d(1)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
(The above is a\nselection taken from \u201cIhtijaj\u201d, by Shaikh Tabarsi (with minor summarization))<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Roshd Website congratulates all\nMuslims, especially you dear friend, upon 5th of Sha\u2019ban, the birthday\nanniversary of the adornment of worshipers, and the Leader of prostration, Imam\nAli ibn Hussain (PBUH).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Footnotes:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Ihtijaj, vol.\n2, p. 320.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Everyone enjoys the attention and compassion of others towards him\/herself. Humbleness is one of the most recommended virtues by our leaders, which brings people closer to one another. Conceit or self-centricity, on the contrary is a direct antonym to humbleness, which causes dispersing of surrounding people. But how is it possible be and remain humble […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[28248],"tags":[20854,17778,18591,20431,20855,18426,18418,17955,20856,20853],"class_list":["post-4309","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-occasional-letters","tag-2014-06-03","tag-allah","tag-father","tag-imam-sajjad","tag-leaders","tag-messenger","tag-occasion-letters","tag-people","tag-sad","tag-the-attitude-of-the-humbles"],"yoast_head":"\n